Neurodivergence Convergence in Perinatal Couples: How Neurodivergent Experience Impacts Intimate Relationships

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Session Description: 

While all couples are vulnerable to the myriad of experiences and possibilities navigating the perinatal period, neurodivergent individuals and couples commonly interface with increased challenges during this time. These difficulties can be related to emotional cycles within self and other, sensory experiences, executive functioning, maladaptive coping strategies, social misunderstandings, and the plethora of co-occurring chronic health conditions tied to neurocomplexity.

This presentation is an opportunity to learn more about various neurodivergent experiences (with an emphasis on autism and ADHD) as it relates to couples navigating the perinatal period. This will include explorations around internalized ableism and misdiagnosis, the role of alexithymia and rejection sensitivity dysphoria, and the added complexities that neurodivergent experience brings to partnership and relational dynamics.

Alongside strengthening our neurodivergent lens, this presentation offers neuroaffirming ideas and approaches to support these experiences. We will look at and practice somatic regulation strategies, tools from Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, and resources designed to explore sensory experiences and nervous system capacity. This presentation will be relevant to mental health therapists and providers who want to learn about the various “neurodivergence convergence” cycles that Caitlin has identified in her work with couples, such as: the “caretaker olympics,” the paradox of pattern recognition and predictability, and the contagious emotional experiences that influence rejection and sensory combustion.

Learning Objectives: 

  1. Participants will be able to identify key characteristics of Autism and ADHD.
  2. Participants will understand the wheel of traits, differentiating that autism is contextual and intersectional in contrast to linear and hierarchical.
  3. Participants will have access to a plethora of evidence-based and/or vetted resources for neurodivergent experiences and understanding.
  4. Participants will learn ways to support neurodivergent parents navigating the perinatal period.
  5. Participants will become more curious and interested in neurodiversity.